I might have a story published in a book. It is a collection of stories about marriage, and mine is still in the running. (the story, not the marriage. I think the marriage will make the final cut.) Anyway, my story is about some pretty personal things in marriage, and I seriously considered using a pen name. Mostly because I don’t want to embarrass our children. Plus, I know from experience you can put some stuff out there for the world to see and then deeply regret it years later when your opinions, convictions, and life choices have completely changed.
Years ago I wrote for a magazine that was very strong on relational issues. Their stance on right relationships was so dogmatic they had done a piece on why single mothers shouldn’t have to work outside the home. (a fine sentiment if the mother doesn’t want to work.) The writer felt so strongly about it he suggested single moms move in with strong families in the local church and let the husband support both families. Even a few months after it was published, the article sounded polygamous and, frankly, stupid to all of us. Including the editors and the writer. But, it is still out there. Somewhere on a dusty library shelf that issue waits to rise up and bite the writer in the part of his anatomy he glues to his chair each time he writes.
Anyway, such mishaps make me wonder about a pen name. The anonymity is enticing. But, good writing is about honesty. And transparency. And bravery, as a matter of fact. So, I sent the article in with my real name. I tried to write it in a way I don’t think I’ll regret. And, I told my children they never have to read it. If it actually gets published, and if I’m ever invited on a talk show to promote the book, I can always wear a disguise.
Or not.
What do you think?
I admire your honesty and bravery, and I’m glad you used your real name. No need for a disguise. I’m sure your vulnerability will help many others who read it! I’m excited for you and praying it makes the cut!
I have actually thought of this before, I even came up with a pen name (which I will not disclose here, obviously). 🙂
I think you are super brave, and should be proud of yourself. You are right. Writing is about transparency.
Uh… but I still might use that pen name someday. 🙂 Or maybe you will help me be more brave if that opportunity comes.
Thanks, ladies. And Eleanor, I’ll totally help you be brave when your time comes.
I read somewhere that if you write in different genres it may be good to use a pen name, especially if your previous work was well-known (if you’re famous for your western adventures, granny might not pick up your children’s book of etiquette for the grandkids). Or if you have a really infamous name. But in this age of Google, people are going to sniff out your alias anyway. Your writing is a platform to shout about the Hope that lives within. But I think it’s just a way to get your foot in the door so they can witness your life firsthand, which speaks even louder.
Own it! Be brave. And definitely be proud of that legacy of affection I’m very proud to have inherited. 😉
Now I really want to read what you wrote! Remember, I always thought I would write a romance novel, but I did not want my parents to read it? Now I would have to worry about my children and grandchildren.