Among the distinctions I hold which mean absolutely nothing in the whole scheme of things is this one: I was the first Homecoming Queen in our high school. Our little school had never done homecoming before. And, evidently, we didn’t know it was supposed to be a popularity contest. So we held a competition where faculty and staff interviewed the candidates and then selected a winner. That is how a lowly freshman stole the crown from all the upperclassmen.
A lot of wonderful and way more important things have happened in my life since then, but I’d be a liar if I told you that moment doesn’t still hold a bit of a thrill in my heart. I mean, come on, I got to wear a princess gown. And they gave me flowers. And a crown.
The moment I remember most, though, was even better than those. It was the moment when my friend, Judy, told me how happy she was for me. I think it was the first time I ever understood what it meant to really celebrate someone else’s success. I saw it in her face. I heard it in her voice. I felt it in my heart. Pure joy with no competition, no comparison, no gosh-I-wish-it-were-me.
I’ve had the privilege of feeling that a lot lately.
For my friend Josh when he started having publishing success and then went to his first writers conference.
For my friend, Jillian, when her husband published his first children’s book and started working on an amazing series. (Which you should support.)
For my favorite daddy-blogger when he sent me sneak-peeks of some upcoming projects.
And, for my friend, Judy, when she took brave, new steps into the writing world that we have both loved since we walked into Mrs. Epperson’s first-grade classroom together several decades ago.
It turns out the principle is true. Celebrating the success of someone you love really is better than getting your own crown. Let’s have a party here on the blog this week. Who do you want to celebrate today?
There are oh so many… but I’d like to celebrate my friend (ex-employer) Susie who has made the brave decision to pack up all her belongings, leave her be-loved business, and move to another state to live closer and care for her parents. It’s a hard job, I’ve done it, but it is so worth any sacrifice to show honor like that to those who gave you life. Susie I know you will find great joy even in the overwhelming moments. Wear your crown with grace!
I also Celebrate YOU Kathy – you are such an encourager (is that a word?), your friendship & words help me put one foot in front of the other each and every day!
I say Crowns for EVERYONE today – We all need to celebrate one another a little bit more.
(Susie won’t be able to see this so I think I’ll copy it to your Facebook post as well)(
My friend Rebecca just got a wonderful new day job, as you know. I’m happy for her. A true-fit day job is something I wish for every person.