Falling in love sounds like something we do totally by accident. Something we have no control over. That is the romantic view, of course. But, if you have ever seen the “Do You Love Me?” scene from Fiddler on the Roof, you know that staying in love is a whole other thing.
Of course, if you would prefer to know he loves you more frequently than every twenty-five years, I have a few suggestions.
- Say so. Before you leave the house in the mornings and again when you get home at night. Look straight into your spouse’s face and Say. The. Words.
- Remember why you fell in love. If kids and bills and jobs and life have distracted your romance, take a few minutes to remember when you first met. Appreciate the traits you loved in the beginning. Be grateful for how they have matured. (If you can’t accomplish this one, consider counseling. I’m serious.)
- Choose. My husband always tells people that he chooses me again every day. (I hope it isn’t a chore.) He chooses to make me his definition of beauty and the love of his life. The emotions follow. Here is a sweet song from Longitude Studios that will help you get into the mood for the choosing.