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In Case You Think My Life is Perfect

By Kathy NickersonOctober 20th, 2016happy endings, mercy, mercystreet2 Comments
(It was pretty close to perfect in this moment.)

(It was pretty close to perfect in this moment.)

Once,  during a junior high youth group retreat, one of our daughter’s admitted feeling bad for not having a “real” testimony. She thought her life had been pretty stable up until that point. Her friend stood up and said, “You have a great testimony. It proves I can have that kind of life in my own family when I grow up.”

Good stuff. We used it for years. But since then, as Eleanor told Marianne in Sense & Sensibility, “Believe me, Marianne, had I not been bound to silence I could have provided proof enough of a broken heart, even for you.”
Jane Austen, Sense and Sensibility

Not that we’ve been bound to silence. Our family just doesn’t always talk a lot about the hard things. And sometimes I think my Eternal Optimism might cause you, Dear Reader, to think we don’t know about the struggle.

But we know:

The Deaths – of those not-yet-born, or born too soon, or even born nearly a century ago. We still mourn each of them.

The Suffering – with addiction, and disease, and divorce. Enemies of our soul that lurk at our doorsteps every day. They require constant vigilance and prayer. Routine screenings. Bi-annual scans. Legal hassles. Relational gymnastics. Some of these will never go away this side of Heaven.

The Daily Drama – Broken promises, lost friendships, strained bank accounts, flat tires, and bankrupt businesses. We know all those.

Yet, we also know:

The Promise of Heaven – which Felicity says may just be another dimension, outside of time, right here with us even now. So Ruby and Ellery, Grandpa Boo and Jesus aren’t actually waiting for us to join them. We are with them now. We just don’t know it yet.

The Joy of Victory – which we taste in little Saturday games like ten year anniversaries of being clean or six-month celebrations of “Cancer Free!” or birthday parties where all the estranged grown-ups can smile and be the kind of friends our beautiful children believe we are.

The Daily Presence – of the Holy Spirit. He handles all the other things in life that break our hearts and test our patience. It is His presence that gives us Eternal Optimism in the face of all the rest.

Even in an election year.

God Bless,



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More Advice from My Mother

By Kathy NickersonApril 11th, 2016happy endings, mercy, mercystreetNo Comments


Don’t you feel this way some days? Maybe it isn’t Grandma’s house. Maybe it’s the park.

Or the zoo.

Or the ocean.

Or anywhere except your gloomy office on a Tuesday afternoon.

My mother has an answer for these days. She would say, “Stop wishing you life away.”

I never liked hearing that as a child. Or as a teenager. Or even as an adult, really. But, I knew she was right.

The wishing for another place, another season, even another moment just makes me miss out on the one I’m in right now.

And that is always a waste of something.

Even a gloomy Tuesday can add something lovely to our lives if we let it. Of course, sometimes we have to bring the sunshine ourselves. Which might require a bit of creativity.


So, if you can’t make it to Grandma’s house today, metaphorically speaking, capture the moment instead. Make a decision to find something glorious in this time and place, and stop wishing your life away.

Face paint is optional.


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